By: Eloke-Young Splendor
Dating Lauren for about a year now has been an uphill task.
He never seems to take his eyes off his laptop, his hands are always glued to his pen, his phone, an annoying third wheel, and his coffee his other best friend.
I thought I could deal with this before now, until I realized I was dating his job and not him.
Dealing with a workaholic partner has threatened many otherwise great relationships.
Dating a very busy man can be so frustrating and tiresome and can even make you question your worth, while creating a dangerous gap in your relationship. While others have allowed the situation cause avoidable rancor in their love life, others have found innovative ways to help their partner balance their work schedule as well as explore every opportunity to add fun to their relationship.
Have you ever considered that your boyfriend does not know his attitude towards work could be causing great harm to your relationship? He possibly feels he is doing all he can to secure a happy future for you two. Considering this, helps you not to approach the issue with a nagging attitude. On the other hand, this situation gives you an opportunity to think outside the box as you initiate better ways to spend time with your lover.
Therefore, you must decide to make it work. A popular saying goes that perspective defines our response to situations. If you attach a positive view to the very busy nature of your partner’s job, your reaction to his workaholic attitude will be a positive one. This could be the time to support what he loves. Every great man adores a spouse who supports what they love and vice versa. Your decision to make it work will help you adopt romantic getaways that suit into the very busy schedule of your partner.
Additionally, you could also help him set up a work schedule. Assisting your partner with setting up a work schedule will show him that you value and understand the priority he places on his job. In doing this however, you need to make a sure point of taking your own work schedule into consideration and leaving ample me time for meditation and personal activities.
In order to achieve this, you can ask your partner or his secretary at work for his schedule and try to compare it with yours. After comparing the two, you can work out a flexible schedule; especially one that does not also affect your progress too. Based on agreement, both of you can decide when to spend time with each other without the fear of hampering any of your work commitments. Trust me, your partner would be more relax at his job when he is assured that your desire for time and attention is not at the detriment of his career.
Another smart way to help improve your relationship with your work addicted boyfriend is by giving him a good distraction. A good distraction involves making an unscheduled work visit to his office. Everybody including a workaholic welcomes a bit of love and care when they have been stressed up with so much work. Giving him little quick visits with lunch packs will be a good distraction, it will also give him the support, care, and good feel after your departure.
As much as you make so much effort to support your workaholic boyfriend, you must also learn to listen. The fact that your spouse’s job consumes his attention, time and energy does not mean that it also fulfills all his needs. He might not have the time to tell you about some of his emotional and material needs or even discuss with you how things are going on in his life, but listening to his needs will give you a better understanding of his schedule. It may even give you an avenue to become more supportive in helping him fulfil his career goals.
While your man may always be busy and have needs, be sure to address your needs in the relationship as well. Not every woman can deal with dating a busy man or has the commitment to change things in a relationship. It takes a lot of time to adjusting from being the needy lady and getting used to supporting a workaholic boyfriend but it is doable.
Getting busier yourself is a great distraction. The busier you are, the less likely you are to sit and whine about a workaholic boyfriend. You might just have him be the one trying to fit into your new busy schedule.