Love Bites


How To Leave A Toxic Relationship

“Philip was the sweetest man I had ever met. He was everything I wanted in a man. At last, I found my answered prayers, I thought. It was barely two months into our relationship that I realized I had made a mistake. Philip was a control freak. He wanted to know where I was at every second, he controlled my finance, monitored my life, and worst still, he hit me at any chance.” “I never thought this would happen to me. “Whenever I took up the courage to confront him, he would lock me up for days. He cut me off from my loved ones and friends. He finds fault with everybody else and why they were not good enough. “I am thankful that I left. It was not quite easy. But I ended the relationship, and I am glad I did,” explained Jovita, my neighbour.” Ideally, no one desires…

I am sorry, I am not sorry

By Kembet Bolton I am sorry. If you’re a woman, there’s a good chance you use this phrase a lot—in fact, you may use it way too much. That’s not your fault. Women are taught and socialized to say sorry—to feel sorry—whether they’re in the wrong or not. It’s a form of deference, and it’s a way of making ourselves smaller or just appeasing. And even though it becomes such an ingrained part of our vocabularies that we often apologize when we are not wrong. It’s not good for us—and it’s not good for our relationships, romantic and otherwise. Because all too frequently, those apologies aren’t real apologies at all. They’re said out of a sense of duty or awkwardness, to stop someone from getting angry or to hide the fact that we’re angry ourselves. So, it’s time to take a little inventory of our “I’m sorry” habit—and look at…