For a relationship to be successful, it requires hard work. Once you get past the first phase of infatuation, often referred to as “the honeymoon phase”, reality begins to set in, and you begin to understand your partner better, whether or not they might be right for you.
There are obvious signs. However, they can be challenging to identify, especially if you have never been in a long-term relationship.
These pointers shared by relationship experts can help you identify if you are with the right person.
- You can reach a concession
“The key to any successful relationship is a compromise,” says Kate Moyle, relationship psychotherapist and host of The Sexual Wellness Sessions podcast.
“It’s always going to be a tussle between the individual needs of those involved, and we shouldn’t expect to be perfectly aligned or agree on everything.”
No relationship is void of hitches from time to time, but if you can quickly come to a concession when a disagreement arises, it is a pointer that your partner is a keeper.
- They are willing to listen to you
A good partner pays attention to everything you have to say, despite how dull the subject matter is.
“It might mean you’re listening to them ranting about the flaws in your work colleagues for the majority of an evening, but it’s important for them to feel heard and listened to,” says Moyle.
“The ability to hear each other, and to give the other space to feel heard, even if the content of the discussion isn’t of interest to us as an individual, shows that person that they are worthy of our time and attention.”
- They make you feel confident about yourself
“The right person for you will empower you to be your most confident self,” says dating coach James Preece.
“They’ll reassure you, pay compliments and let you know how amazing you are,” he adds.
Bade goodbye to partners who make you feel less of yourself. If they constantly question your looks, your opinions, and almost everything you do, they may not be the right person for you. A good partner makes you feel good about yourself and brings out your best.
- You have similar core values
Humans differ, and so are our beliefs, goals, and principles. However, your values and goals should align with someone you intend to love forever.
“You are a team and need to be on the same page,” says Preece. “This requires you both aligning on what’s important to you in life.”
Your beliefs on parenting, lifestyle, finance, and whatever you value should also matter to your partner.
- You can confidently tell them how you feel without fear
When you are with the right person, there is no judgment, says Preece. Or at least there shouldn’t be.
“You should feel free to be yourself and show all sides of your personality,” he adds.
When you are with the right person, you can be and express yourself without the fear of being judged.
- They are loved by your friends and family
When your family and friends are comfortable with your partner, if they tag along pretty well, it could be a sign that they are good for you. At first, your family could be skeptical of the people who decide to date. However, if they become accessible and friendly with them, it is a good sign.
“The people around you are going to be a great judge of character and probably know you better than you know yourself,” says Preece. “If they are your partner’s biggest fans, then you know you have picked a good one.”
Being in a relationship with the right person is what makes a relationship more fulfilling. You should look out for these signs to be on the safe side.