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The art of parenting is often referred to as one of the most difficult but fulfilling jobs in the world. It has no written constitution as to how the rules should work, or a magical formula that perfects the system because every child differs from the other.

However, for the parent, there are certain developments that must happen in their lives while taking up the responsibility to parent a child. We do know parents are the first role models, teachers, and guardians to their wards, which is why most parents consciously or unconsciously subscribe to self-development to help their child learn best.

Parenting is a full time job that lasts for a long time, and the rewards are everlasting. Although parenting can be exhausting, it never leaves the individual underdeveloped depending on the level of sacrifices that was dedicated to the course. From the very stance of conception, to the point you realize that there is a fetus growing in you, learning becomes the order of happenings around you. You learn about the diet that works better for you and for the growth of the baby, the same goes to most aspects of your life. Even after delivery, the job is not yet completed but rather you move to a higher level that expects much more from you.

Parenting takes so much from you, because as a mother, you are a maker and a creator, molding your personality in another being. And in the course of that, many things happen consciously and unconsciously. This article will be narrowing down seven crucial changes that take place in a parent’s life during the period of parenting that tends to last for a life time.

  1. Responsibility:

You were probably a responsible adult before you became a parent, being in a relationship, building a career or etc. are all forms of responsibility; being responsible entails striving to make the best decision at all times. However, if other aspects of life had a minor change on your personality, there are thousands of reasons why parenting should have a drastic change on your personality. You are now totally responsible for the wellbeing of your child, and every decision you make including the decision of the next meal to prepare is as important as living.

This responsibility may affect all areas of your life including your wardrobe. You suddenly realize that you are becoming accountable and judgmental about things and life because you have the best interest of your child to protect. Your decision as a parent is not for your benefits but for the benefits of your child which may not reflect at the present time but in future.

  1. You become more careful:

Like I said earlier, you have the interest of your child to protect. Becoming careful emanates from being protective. No parent with the interest of their child at heart is carefree about anything in life.

Some parents go as far as amending their future plans in order to protect their children from unforeseen mishaps that may arise.

Being careful cuts across all areas of life, from academics to social life and even cultural ethics, parents in the modern age have learnt to filter some cultural and traditional perceptions that can mar a child’s mentality about life.

  1. You become studious:

This may not happen to every parent, but we all agree that parents are the best teachers to their children. Therefore, out of curiosity many parents go out of their way to make findings about something or anything before introducing it to their children.

However, other act of being studious happens unconsciously, such as being in a grocery store and your child points his/her attention towards an article that you are unfamiliar with. In such situations, the parent out of curiosity picks up such items to find out details about it. Even if they are unlearned parents, they would go as far as asking anyone around to know what the item is all about.

This scenario does not happen only at the grocery store but anywhere and about anything, all in the bid to protect your child’s interest.

  1. You become creative:

Obviously, everything about life has to do with creativity, which is applying knowledge to making life better. Everything that has been manufactured was produced to make life easier and better for man. In order words, to make life easier and better for your wards you have to develop skills and start applying knowledge to the daily activities of life so that your children will not find life difficult.

Parenting makes you think ahead of time, right from conception, you begin to put thoughts and imagination about what your child’s room should look like, and it doesn’t end there, it transcends to all aspect of their lives. The bottom line is that parenting conditions your mind to creativity, your income level, you drop your bad habits (or try to cub them) etc.

  1. You become selfless:

Having established the fact that parenting makes you responsible, which is being responsible for another. You no longer think of yourself and for yourself alone. Most parents are so consumed with thoughts about their children that they forget to recognize their needs. They find joy in seeing their children complete, comfortable and happy.

Parenting makes you go the extra mile; it kills every attitude and habit of selfishness.

  1. You go the extra mile.

Going the extra mile for your children is hard work, because your aim is to achieve something or anything for the benefits of your children. Your hard work could be for their comforts, pleasure, joy, social life and excellence, to mention a few.

Jane D Hull the Famous American politician and educator did state that at the end of the day, the most overwhelming key to a child’s success is the positive involvement of parents.

  1. You become disciplined

Yes, every responsible parent is disciplined because they are aware that their children are watching. No parent is perfect but every parent strives to be perfect for their children.

Most parents have learnt to set high standards for their selves, in order to become a perfect role model to their children. Parents have gone as far as dropping a lot of habits as well as pleasures for their children sake.

This doesn’t mean that they are emotionless, but life has to do with sowing and reaping.

In conclusion, though parenting has often been rated as the difficult job on earth, every parents does agree with the famous 90’s super model Gena Lee Nolin who says “My children are the reasons I laugh, smile and want to get up in the morning”….

Indeed, it is the most rewarding job on earth.

 

By Miracle Nwankwo

 

The act of multitasking has been attached to a superhuman ability in these modern times although it is one of the vital attributes every woman should possess. Multi-tasking is an activity most people perform almost every day even though they might not be conscious of it. You might be wondering what exactly multi-tasking is. Dictionary defined multitasking as the simultaneous execution of multiple tasks or programs under the control of an interrupt-driven operating system. Multitasking can be a great strategy to realizing your unending to-do lists, thereby, increasing your productivity although; you must learn to accord the appropriate focus to each task. As women move out from the cliché of just being housewives to occupying seats in top boardrooms, the need to be great mothers as well as excellent career women becomes more needful and sometimes stressful. Being a home-keeper, wife and a career mom can be very exhausting for most women, but the ability to multi-task and still keep your cool will leave you more fulfilled than you can ever imagine. Have you ever wished you could be able to satisfy yourself, career and kids? If yes, then you need to have at the tip of your fingers more effective ways by which you can multi-task.

Below is Seven Effective Ways a Woman Can Multi-task:

  1. Make a To-do list: Having a schedule list of whatever tasks you need to accomplish in a day can help you multi-task, as this gives you the ability to select two tasks that can possibly be performed simultaneously without any of the two missing out.  Making a to-do list involves scheduling tasks and setting time frames. Have deadlines or a short turn-around time for tasks, and you’ll surpass your expectations. Through trials and errors, you learn how best and fast to complete tasks. Also, avoid the tendency to take on more than you can handle you can do this by making sure that your allotted time suits the activity to be performed.
  2. Make Use of Technology Provided Aid: In a world where technology seems to have the answer to almost all human problems, multi-tasking should not be so much of a big deal. Technology has helped to provide mothers who can do shopping online and at the same time do the laundry with the help of a washing machine, while doing shopping online as the electronic self-rocking cradle rocks the baby to sleep. Therefore, using technological aids can boost multi-tasking and make it more efficient.
  3. Avoid Distractions: Multi-tasking calls for a lot of self-discipline.  Everyone faces distractions especially when there is a lot of task to get done but the ability to handle these distractions is what keeps you on track and makes the act of multi-tasking much more effective. These distractions can come in form of phone, calls, television, and social media etc. but self – discipline keeps a mom on track especially the mom who runs a home-based business. 
  1. Grab the Opportunity to Delegate: Most mothers have problems with delegating because they can barely trust anyone to perform a certain task as perfect as they would have done it themselves. Multi-tasking is more beautiful when add extra hands. In order not to regret the decision to delegate, assess the task you are personally able to and the ones good enough for delegation. Delegation is a great way to get so many tasks done at the same time.
  1. Discern the Activity for the Moment: Learning to do the right thing at the right time can make multitasking more effective. When preparing your to-do list, you must bear in mind the best time for every activity and place all activities within the right timing. Recognize when you work best by monitoring your productivity and assign all activity the way it suits you. Allocating the best time of your day to your most important work is a great way to be more effective and productive. 
  1. Use Waiting Time Efficiently: Whenever any of your activity provides for a waiting time be conscious to use it effectively. Waiting time may come in places like the airport, bank, or doctor’s office. Always take along some work, especially if you have to be in places where waiting is inevitable. While waiting, find a means to multi-task with any available chore. 
  1. Take Multi-task Rehearsals: Practice they say makes perfect as it is an act to mastering any skill. In order to become skilled in the act of multi-tasking, you must learn to practice the act frequently. Multi-tasking should be part of every woman’s life, and not an activity that arises just from a need to get many things done. To practice how to multi-task take a look at all you need to do in a day and pick a few routine tasks to start with.

Women have been assigned a handful of responsibilities in our society today, these responsibilities are definitely not beyond their capacity but making good use of their multi-tasking skills can help them become more productive than they have ever imagined.  

There are daily habits that could definitely help you crack the code of feeling more comfortable in your own skin. You don’t need to be a high-class celebrity to be confident and keep your shoulders high rather; you just have to recognize that being confident is not a destination but a great step to achieving that sparkling bright future.

Being confident is a process to find your light, embrace it, and learn to let yourself shine without fear of being dimmed by the outside.  Below are seven (7) great habits that can boost a woman’s confidence in a tremendous way:-

  1. Use Positive Affirmations: To improve your confidence you should have several positive sentences that you repeat to yourself many times throughout your day. The use of positive affirmation is a very powerful way to program the subconscious mind and create action as you are first who you say you are, before what others think you are. A confident woman learns how to use positive words to describe what she wants to happen and she says it with feeling conviction.
  2. Have a Strong Sense of Self: Confident women know themselves deeply and find strength from self-awareness. To boost your confidence you must learn to find comfort first in yourself; before seeking for it in others. Confident women find stability from themselves no matter how stressful and tumultuous, their external environment might be. More importantly, this stability consistently reinforces their confidence in themselves.
  3. Acknowledge your Successes: Past achievements and successes help to improve a woman’s confidence. Confident women make the time to recognize their successes and be grateful for what they have already accomplished in their lives. Make a list of all the successes and accomplishments or anything you are proud of yourself for, no matter how big or how “small” they are; this will be a great tool to look back and reflect on when you have moments of insecurity.
  4. Embrace Discomfort: Confident women are not 100% confident all the time, every second of every day. They sometimes wake up with self-doubt, fear, and uncertainty. They even wonder if they’ve made the right decisions, if they’re good enough, if they’ll fail and if they’ll succeed but; they don’t let it control their actions or inhibit their growth. They embrace the discomfort and use it to make room to grow.
  5. Have Clear Goals and Action Plans to Achieve Them: A confident woman understands that while goals are important, they don’t mean anything unless you have an action plan to achieve them. To improve your confidence you must have a plan in place as to how you’re going to achieve every dream.
  6. Take Risks: Your comfort zone is a boring, black box created by those limiting beliefs in your head. If you want a major change in your life, you must change those self-limiting beliefs that have kept you from having what you’ve wanted in the past. Try new things, learn a new skill or try a new hobby. Careless about failure or rejection. Failure is an opportunity to Learn. If it didn’t work out, figure out why, make some changes and try it again.
  7. Smile: Confident women are happy women, so they smile. A lot is said, through our Facial expressions. Our face tells others how interested we are, how alert we are, if we in agreement or not, if we are confident or insecure, if we are upset or happy or relaxed. The absolute best facial expression we can have is a smile; it shows others that you are confident and approachable.

Why not add a spark of confidence to your makeup and see how elegant you will be? Now if you are ready to journey into a life of absolute confidence, why not display a grin that reflects your amazing personality.

 

As a business owner, you may be doing very well at managing the business in its early stage but as the business grows, you will be dealing with more clients who would want their needs met at almost the same time hence, the need for you to partner with someone or a group of people because, the “if you want it done right, do it yourself” approach may not be viable at this stage of the business. Also, no matter how broad your skill set, you’re not going to be an expert in every aspect of running your business, filling every role will be nearly impossible.

There is a very clear difference between being busy and being productive. The fact that you are busy doesn’t mean you are being productive. It is possible to be busy and not be productive. Being productive has to do more with your energy management and less of the time management.

Here are 7 things you need to do to become more productive

1. Avoid stretching your working hours rather increase your productivity level

Majority of working class people are guilty of this. Instead of increasing our productivity we increase our work hours because of the misconception we have about these two factors. Take for example a man that works over time and ends up going to bed very late- such a person is likely to put up a poor performance the following day compared to the one who used his working hours productively and slept on time.

It’s important for us not to overwork ourselves and get enough sleep to maintain a high level of productivity. Next time you’re wondering why you are not working productively, the reason may be as simple as you being one of the 70% of people who do not get enough sleep.

In 1926, Henry Ford, American industrialist and founder of Ford Motor Company, conducted experiments with interesting results: when you decrease your daily working hours from 10 to 8 and shorten the work week from 6 days to 5, your productivity increases.

2. Do not say ‘yes’ too often

Often times we take on too much work responsibility than we should just because we do not want to hurt anyone’s feeling. Nobody wants to be the bad guy. You should learn to say ‘no’ sometimes.

According to the Pareto Principle, 20% of the effort produces 80% of the results; however, 20% of the results consumes 80% of the effort. Instead of working harder, we should focus primarily on those efforts that produce 80% of the results and forgo the rest. We will have more time to focus on the most important tasks. We should stop saying “yes” to tasks that bring low or almost no result.

“The difference between successful people and very successful people is that very successful people say “no” to almost everything.” — Warren Buffet.

3. Stop doing repetitive tasks and start automating it.

You don’t have to be a coder to be able to automate your repetitive tasks. It’s nice to have the skills or the resources, but it’s not a requirement. If you cannot build it, buy it.

People often forget that time is money. People usually do things manually because it’s easy and requires almost no research. It is manageable to moderate 30 images on Instagram for your user-generated campaign. But if you have to manage 30 000 photos and videos from 5 different platforms, you need a good digital asset management software.

 

4. Allow people help you. Stop doing things alone

It is important for us to know that we cannot do everything ourselves, we cannot reach our desired height or level if we choose to work alone. It is better for you to let someone who can do a better job taking over some of your tasks. It will give you more time to focus on your most important tasks. Instead of wasting your time trying to figure something out yourself, let the experts help you.

5. Always back up your decision with data. Stop guessing

As a professional in what you do, always try to back up your decision with data. Make use of research studies, internet etc to get required information in different areas.

6. Stop being a perfectionist

Here are some disadvantages of being a perfectionist

• They spend more time than required for a task.
• They procrastinate and wait for the perfect moment. In business, if it is the perfect moment, you are too late.
• They miss the big picture while being too focused on small things.
• Marketers often wait for the perfect moment. In doing so, they end up missing it.

 

7. Take a break

Yes, it is good to work but it is also important to walk away from our work once in a while and have some alone time. Sometimes we get the solution to problems when we are not searching for it.

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Everyday, the world moves a step ahead to get more and more digitalized than ever before. Some parents have said that handling a teenage child is more difficult since the inception of social media and other digital devices. There is no doubting the fact that the teenage mind moves as fast as digitalization itself while picking both the negative and positives of a moving world.

In the same vein, parents have grown too busy to attend to the needs of there children and so are most of the times unaware of happenings in their children’s lives that are capable of steering them towards depression.  This has become an issue of concern to most parents as they seek for suitable methods to instill character and discipline in their teenagers.

Below are seven facts every should understand about their teenage children in a digitalized world.

  1. Communication is vital but it could become a burden, so learn to do it at their own time: Oftentimes teenagers want to be left alone to brood on some issues that they feel unable to let out. As a mother, it is essential that you study your child to know what suitable time to talk about anything. Doing this at their own time will stir the mood to pour out their problems to you.
  2. Be faster than they are: being a mother is good but becoming a role model is better. Becoming the person they admire and look up to means putting them by your side and you will never lose sight of them. Be the first to see that movie you know they will love and introduce it to them. Help them learn to play a new game and try to make them learn from you, nothing will be hidden from you because they see you as a friend, not just a mother.
  3. Be involved in their social life: a number of parents get it all wrong as it concerns what their children should be engaged in socially. Some parents are so rigid that they encroach on the privacy of their teenage children. The truth is teenage children really want to be left alone to figure out their lives but at the same time, need the subtle guardians of parents. For example, your teenage daughter or son bring their friends home for a visit, as a mother, it is not the appropriate time to start interrupting in their conversations, trust me, you will never know what might be going on behind you immediately you take your leave. But you could let them be and take your time out to study their movement, talk about each friend that comes to visit and make them understand that you love their friends. You could say “oh Janet I really love your friend’s skirts it sure looks good on her, don’t you think you should get one?” doing this will allow them to give you a hint of the conversation without you asking.
  4. Be the first to introduce sex education to your teenagers: many parents and moms especially still do not know the benefit of this decision while others haven’t considered it as unnecessary but the truth remains that the earlier they are aware of this the better for the both of you. Also, it is safer to hear it from you. Tell them everything they are supposed to know. The good and the bad, the advantage and the dangers that are tied to it, this will help them to know wrong knowledge when they detect one and encourage them to abstain and play safe in due time.
  5. Encourage them: let your children grow to understand that he or she is not disadvantaged, create an ideal thought about their image through your words. Encourage them to know that they can do better, don’t ever talk them down or kill their self-esteem because it makes them lose control. They may then get carried away with activities of negative company where they feel accepted.
  6. “You are Grounded” may not be a perfect idea: what your teenager does when they are alone is very important so grounding them may not always be the best solution as this maya cause them to withdraw from you.  If you must use this method, also create time to extensively discuss the situation and be sure the child understands that you mean no harm. This way you will also be able to ascertain your child’s pain points.
  7. Respect their feelings and choices: they are young adults so they have the feeling that they should not be tossed about. In order to handle this, you can make them feel matured by giving tasks that reveal a sense of responsibility. This way they will grow with a do-it-right mentality and do things the right way even when you are not watching.